If you gotta force it, leave it alone. Relationships, friendships, ponytails. Just leave it. If you feel like you need to force anything to make it happen, that is the first sign that you should leave it alone. Stop. When the creation becomes pushing it is no longer for you. Let it go. Sometimes when you let go, you are opening yourself up for it to manifest itself in a different way and you may yet still get what you want. If something is meant fot you, it will happen.