Are you one of the people- raised as I was- to only receive love in exchange for achievement? You know, excellent grades meant love. An award got you attention. An impossibly-painstaking diet to reach an 'ideal' weight in your mind- or the mind of people you wanted love from- meant you were finally lovable. A professional coup meant you got praise. Otherwise, you were ignored. Or criticized. Or compared to other people. Anyone who requires that you achieve anything in order to have their…
